1. We will never mention breaking up or divorce.
2. We will never bring up old, unrelated items from the past.
3. We will never fight in public or in front of our children.
4. We will call a “time out” if conflict escalates to a damaging level.
5. We will never touch one another in a harmful way.
6. We will never go to bed angry with one another.
7. Failure is not an option. Whatever it takes, we will work this out.
8. We will not go to friends or outside people with our personal business. We will not post our issues to social media.
9. We will not fight in the bedroom, as that is our sanctuary.
10. We will keep arguments outside the house, kept to the porch or the car.
“Me” Boundaries:
1. I will listen first before speaking.
2. I will not talk over him.
3. I will deal with my own issues up-front.
4. I will speak gently and keep my voice down.
5. I will not say cruel things or talk down to my partner.
6. I will not make myself look like the victim or try to make him feel bad.
Remember, love is not a fight, but it is worth fighting for.
Talk with your partner about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to “fight” by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.