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Remember Your Friendship

1/22/2017

What would you do for your best girl friend to cheer her up or celebrate? Use this thought process to come up with some ideas to celebrate your friendship with your significant other. Buy him his favorite treat or snack. Cook or purchase his favorite meal. Watch your favorite movie together. Plan to do your favorite activity with each other. Remind him that he is your best friend.

Ask yourself, "What are the most important characteristics of a friend?"
What are three things that you want to do with your significant other before you die?
In what ways have you failed to be a good friend? What are some significant things you can do to change that?

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Are You Winning?

1/22/2017

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Write down three POSITIVE changes you've seen in your significant other since being together. Share one of theses positive changes with your mate today. Do your best to come off as proud, instead of patronizing.

What is the ultimate vision you have for your life? Who do you want to become? You may have a good idea, but take the time to ask your partner what his vision is, and make a commitment to help with and support that vision.
What are some things that you hope to change about yourself? What are some things that your mate hopes to change to about himself? How can you help him reach those goals?
Do you have unresolved issues in your relationship? Find a time to clearly understand your mate's position on the issue. The goal is to understand, as opposed to trying to change.

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What's the Mission?

1/22/2017

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Think about the things that are the most important to you as a couple to do or accomplish in life. You may want to refine your mission statement a few times, and then possibly post a nice copy of it in your home. Review it often and make necessary changes so that it always reflects the goals and values of your relationship and your family.

Remember back when you and your significant other got together. What was the main driving force for wanting to be in a relationship with each other? How did you feel when you got together and what were you looking forward to accomplishing together?
Has your view of relationships changed since you've been together? Why do you want to stay together? Is it the same reason you wanted to get together? With all things that have happened or changed in your lives together, has any of this affected your view of your relationship or relationships in general?

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Day 40: Love Is A Covenant

1/15/2017

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A covenant, unlike a contract, is intended to be unbreakable.

Your life together is before you. Dare to take hold of it and never let go.

Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. Perhaps, if appropriate, you could make arrangements to formally renew your vows before a minister and with family present. Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God's eyes and the high honor of being one with your mate.

What has God revealed to you during the Love Dare? How have your views of your relationship changed? How committed are you to God and to your partner? Who can you share this with as a testimony?

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Day 39: Love Endures

1/15/2017

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Love never fails.

Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your significant other. Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what. Leave it in a place that your mate will find it.

What were some of the hesitations you had in writing this letter? How do you expect your partner to respond to it? How did God help you in writing it, and what did the process teach you about yourself?

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Day 38: Love Fulfills Dreams

1/15/2017

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What is something your significant other would really love? It's time you started living out the answer to that question.

Love calls you to listen to what your mate is saying and hoping for.
Love calls you to remember the things that are unique to your relationship, the pleasures and enjoyments that bring a smile to the other's face.
Love calls you to give when it would be a lot more convenient to wait.
And love calls you to daydream about these opportunities so regularly that their desires become yours as well.

Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.

What has made you resistant to fulfilling your mate's dreams in the past? How would it change your relationship if they knew their dreams were a priority to you? What desires are you attempting to meet?

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Day 37: Love Agrees In Prayer

1/15/2017

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Ask your mate if you can begin paying together. Talk about the best time to do this, whether it's in the morning, your lunch hour, or before bedtime. Use this time to commit your concerns, disagreements, and needs before the Lord. Don't forget to thank Him for His provision and blessing. Even if your partner refuses to do this, resolve to spend this daily time in prayer yourself.

What can you do to help your mate be wiling for the two of you to begin praying together? If you agreed to pray together, what was it like? What did you learn from it?

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Day 36: Love Is God's Word

1/15/2017

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Commit to reading the Bible every day. Find a devotional book or other resource that will give you some guidance. If your partner is open to it, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you. Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.

What parts of your life are in the greatest need of God's counsel? Where do you feel the susceptible to failure? What are you asking God to show you through His Word?

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Day 35: Love Is Accountable

1/15/2017

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Mighty sequoia trees tower hundreds of feet in the air and can withstand intense environmental pressures. Lightning can strike them, fierce winds can blow, and forest fires can rage around them. But the sequoia endures, standing firm, only growing stronger through the trials.

One of the secrets to the strength of this giant tree is what goes on below the surface. Unlike many trees, they reach out and interlock their roots with the sequoias around them. Each becomes empowered and reinforced by the strength of others.

This is also a key to maintaining a strong, healthy relationship. Couples who interlock their lives in a network of other strong relationships radically increase their chances of surviving the fiercest of storms.

Find a relationship mentor - someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel that counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment. During this process, ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.

Who did you choose? Why did you select this person? What do you hope to learn from them?

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Day 34: Love Celebrates Godliness

1/15/2017

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Find a specific, recent example when your partner demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. Verbally commend them for this at some point today.

What example did you choose to recognize? How many other ways could you celebrate their growth in godliness? How could you encourage them to persevere in it?

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Daring to love is one of the most crucial elements of a long-term, committed relationship. Whether new or old, perfect or falling apart, a relationship can only get better. I do not claim to be an expert by any means. In some ways, I could use more work in some aspects than most. However, I have realized how important my relationship is to me, and I am committed to making it better from here on out. In light of this, I have done a lot of soul-searching, a lot of praying, and a lot of homework. Compiling it here, maybe it won't help just me. Bettering a relationship is not something that is ever considered by most. Most just believe things are the way they are, and he/she will never change. However, it is selfish to put blame on another and not look at yourself first. The first step is to take a look at yourself, and then build a path to nurturing your relationship. Choosing to lead your heart and choosing to love will, in the end, change you, your partner, and potentially change your life.

Remember Your Friendship

Are You Winning?

What's the Mission?

Day 40: Love Is A Covenant

Day 39: Love Endures

Day 38: Love Fulfills Dreams

Day 37: Love Agrees In Prayer

Day 36: Love Is God's Word

Day 35: Love Is Accountable

Day 34: Love Celebrates Godliness

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